Posts by scared and lonely

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I am leaving the JW's . I am alone and scared. Advice and help needed please

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i am sorry that on my first post i am asking for help and advice but i am at my wits end.

i have been brought up a witness all my life and it is all i know.

i am an ex-elder and pioneer and i don't know anybody outside of the congregation.. i have been unhappy for so long and wanted to leave.

scared and lonely

Hi Acts5v29

I am currently working my way through my PM's so will reply to you as soon as I can. Thank you so much :)

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I am leaving the JW's . I am alone and scared. Advice and help needed please

by scared and lonely in

i am sorry that on my first post i am asking for help and advice but i am at my wits end.

i have been brought up a witness all my life and it is all i know.

i am an ex-elder and pioneer and i don't know anybody outside of the congregation.. i have been unhappy for so long and wanted to leave.

scared and lonely

S&L, after yesterdays bit of a giggle, and reinforced by Cofty and Besty I am a 100% bona fide exjw involved in my own bit of activism and who would 100% respect anyone confidentiality here or anywhere, so anyone here revealing anything of a sensitive nature could be rest assured that it would not go any further, the reason I ask I do have a contact in the cleaning business who pays £8/hr in the London area the only issue is the need for an CSCS health and safety certificate

Thank you very much. A number of people have confirmed that you are one of the nice guys.

In hindsight, my stupid over dramatic first few posts deserved the abuse I got on the forum. I was an idiot and have come across so wrong. It has been a really stressful few months and I honestly think I have had a bit of a melt down.

This forum is helping me to put things into perspective and my future is looking a lot brighter.

That is a really kind offer and I am genuinely very grateful. I am outside of the London area (a lot further up the M1) and couldn't afford to move to London but I appreciate the gesture very much.

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I am leaving the JW's . I am alone and scared. Advice and help needed please

by scared and lonely in

i am sorry that on my first post i am asking for help and advice but i am at my wits end.

i have been brought up a witness all my life and it is all i know.

i am an ex-elder and pioneer and i don't know anybody outside of the congregation.. i have been unhappy for so long and wanted to leave.

scared and lonely

Besty ..."don't bother revealing anything else that could identify you. there are people here in the UK who have been DF'd based on what they have posted."

Thanks for the advice. That is what I am afraid of. Thank you so much for your kind words and taking the time to post, It is appreciated very much. :)

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I am leaving the JW's . I am alone and scared. Advice and help needed please

by scared and lonely in

i am sorry that on my first post i am asking for help and advice but i am at my wits end.

i have been brought up a witness all my life and it is all i know.

i am an ex-elder and pioneer and i don't know anybody outside of the congregation.. i have been unhappy for so long and wanted to leave.

scared and lonely

Jookbeard: S&L if you dont mind me asking what part of the UK are you from, and could you PM me the name of your cong and some of the names of the elders from your congregation?

Jookbeard, with all due respect, after what you did to me yesterday, I would never reveal anything to you. There was no need for you to mock me the way you did. I didn't deserve that, especially as you could see how sorry I was.

I am reluctant to reveal even my circuit, never mind the congregation or the elders. Outside of London, it is so easy to put the pieces together and I can't risk that at the moment. I know most of the people in my district because of one of the positions I held at the convention and a lot of them are aware of my situation and demise.

Most people on this forum have been so friendly and given great advice, but there is an element of people that I would not trust with such information.

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I am leaving the JW's . I am alone and scared. Advice and help needed please

by scared and lonely in

i am sorry that on my first post i am asking for help and advice but i am at my wits end.

i have been brought up a witness all my life and it is all i know.

i am an ex-elder and pioneer and i don't know anybody outside of the congregation.. i have been unhappy for so long and wanted to leave.

scared and lonely

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I am leaving the JW's . I am alone and scared. Advice and help needed please

by scared and lonely in

i am sorry that on my first post i am asking for help and advice but i am at my wits end.

i have been brought up a witness all my life and it is all i know.

i am an ex-elder and pioneer and i don't know anybody outside of the congregation.. i have been unhappy for so long and wanted to leave.

scared and lonely

Freddo

Thank you for taking the time to respond.

It is a long thread so I don't expect you to have read every post, but I can assure you that as the thread continued it got LESS panicky.

Also within 15 mins I removed any mention of financial assistance and got rid of the link. I would have edited the post and removed it completely if I could. I regret it very much.

You have to bear in mind that I have been going through the biggest life-changing situation in my entire life. I want to be free and for me the only way to do that is to move away hence the panic.

And yes, I guess I was dependent on the JW's. It is all I have known. I was completely immersed in the entire thing from birth.

The though of losing that network and being on my own does scare me. But I can see that others have been through the same thing so it has given me hope and realised that there are options open to me.

I have been doing a lot of research on this site and it has helped me to re-evaluate things and see that I have more options.

That is why I want to start a new thread and new profile so that the waters don't get muddied any more and I don't have to go over the same ground, just as I am doing here.

Thanks again

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I am leaving the JW's . I am alone and scared. Advice and help needed please

by scared and lonely in

i am sorry that on my first post i am asking for help and advice but i am at my wits end.

i have been brought up a witness all my life and it is all i know.

i am an ex-elder and pioneer and i don't know anybody outside of the congregation.. i have been unhappy for so long and wanted to leave.

scared and lonely

Hi

Thank you very much to everybody who has left a helpful and supportive message. I can't thank you enough.

Yesterday was a bad day for me and my biggest regret was approach this forum the way that I did. I was literally panicking and at my wits end.

In the cold light of day and after reading the messages of brave people who have managed to leave the JW's, I am ashamed and embarrassed by my post. No wonder, some members have been hard on me.

A lot of my messages have been missed by some members who are calling me a troll or a scammer. Throughout the whole thread i apologised profusely and did all I could to rectify the situation.

I want to start again on this forum, because what I have learnt in less than 24 hours has been like an unveiling for me after a lifetime of being institutionalised. I wish I had visited here a long time ago.

Let me start again.

Is there a way that I can change my username to something less dramatic and more positive?

If not, then I will register again using a new name but for transparency's sake I will state in my first new post who I am so that people don't think I am trying to scam anybody.

I just need to address some issues:

1. Lack of information means I am a troll

I understand the concern. The main core of my situation is true. My vagueness of the details is not due to trying to scam anybody but because it took me a lot of courage to come here as any ex-JW knows after being repeatedly being warned about any site other than JW.org.

Also, I was wary because we are such a close-knit community. it wouldn't take too long for somebody to work out who I am if they wanted to. It does not take long for any JW to make a connection and know somebody in another congregation.

I accept that if I can going to receive the advice I need I need to be more transparent, so I will try to be although some of the comments here have made me realise it is not an entirely friendly and safe place.

2. I don't use the right terminology so I must be a troll.

This is laughable. I was brought up as a JW since being a baby. Most people I know still call the congregation overseer the P.O. (presiding overseer) and use the old terms. The amount of elders that still use the term "the society" even though we were told not to at the elders training school. That is not an indicator of me being a troll. I used the term watchtower conductor because most people know that is even if they haven't been to the meetings for years.

As I have said, so many times, I am truly sorry for the clumsy start. I genuinely want to put things right because right now I need all the advice I can get.

I'd rather start a new thread if I can and start again.

Once again, thank you to the ones who took the time to give in-depth posts of advice and for the private messages pointing me in the right direction.

I will personally thank each and every one of you via PM.

Kind regards

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I am leaving the JW's . I am alone and scared. Advice and help needed please

by scared and lonely in

i am sorry that on my first post i am asking for help and advice but i am at my wits end.

i have been brought up a witness all my life and it is all i know.

i am an ex-elder and pioneer and i don't know anybody outside of the congregation.. i have been unhappy for so long and wanted to leave.

scared and lonely

You should accept Jookbeard's offer of meeting up for a chat. He's been around here a while, he's a good guy.

He wasn't being helpful ....he was being sarcastic and mocking the mistake that I made. Perhaps not quite such a good guy after all

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I am leaving the JW's . I am alone and scared. Advice and help needed please

by scared and lonely in

i am sorry that on my first post i am asking for help and advice but i am at my wits end.

i have been brought up a witness all my life and it is all i know.

i am an ex-elder and pioneer and i don't know anybody outside of the congregation.. i have been unhappy for so long and wanted to leave.

scared and lonely

hey S&L seeing you are in the UK perhaps we could meet up, I live in London, I'll give you your cash personally! let me know the time

Why are you doing that?

it took a lot of courage for me to visit this forum. After having it drummed into me for years about Avoiding apostasy to finally visit and post on a forum like this is a big deal.

I made a terrible error in my early post and I couldn't be more sorry and I put it right but your comments as well as the other sarcastic ones from other members are not helping.

Things are bad enough for me without comments from people like you who are supposed to be on my side.

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I am leaving the JW's . I am alone and scared. Advice and help needed please

by scared and lonely in

i am sorry that on my first post i am asking for help and advice but i am at my wits end.

i have been brought up a witness all my life and it is all i know.

i am an ex-elder and pioneer and i don't know anybody outside of the congregation.. i have been unhappy for so long and wanted to leave.

scared and lonely

I had a feeling this was a troll by the daft username, by the way Scared and Lonely I am very rich as I won the national lottery twice in successive months, the first win was £10 million and the last win was only £5 million so hopefully I might win it again soon, if you would some cash name the amount and I'd be only too pleased to wire it to you, will £1million be okay?

Is there really any need for that reply?

Perhaps my username is daft but it expresses how I feel on such a life changing situation. I AM scared. I AM lonely.

if you took the time to read my replies you can see how apologetic I was and what I'm trying to do with my life.

Things are hard enough as it is without reading sarcastic comments like that.

I have been told to 'grow a pair' more than once on this forum. It seems that life on the outside is going to be as hard as I thought it would be with attitudes like yours.

I really don't need unhelpful comments like that especially from people who are meant to be on my side.